Dealing with the Scar of Falling Out with a Friend


An end of a friendship, for whatever reason, is never easy. You get along splendidly with someone for a long time then suddenly something irreparable happens that results to the end of a friendship. It usually takes time to heal the emotional wounds it may cause. And sometimes, it may even leave an invisible scar that may be hard for others and even yourself to detect. Dealing with the difficult emotions may not be easy, but here are some of the things you can do to help you in the process.

Start with forgiveness. This may be easier said than done. But forgiving yourself or the other person for whatever role each of you has played that led to the end of a friendship is therapeutic. Find constructive ways to express and unload negative feelings. Write on your journal, talk with another trusted friend, or take advantage of a quiet moment to reflect on what happened. Remind yourself that forgiveness is one of the easiest paths to self-healing.

Let it go. Like forgiving, letting go is equally hard to do for most people. While it may not instantly provide the healing you need, accepting that things happen for a reason can help you take the first step towards getting past the hurt of falling out with a friend.

Stop the blame. Avoid beating yourself up because of the falling out. Stop blaming yourself or the other person for whatever reason. The best thing you can do is to be kind to yourself and focus on taking care of yourself so you could get past all the negative feelings you may currently have. Give the same compassion on yourself that you would give to other people in similar situations. Spend time doing uplifting activities instead of wallowing with the negative thoughts surrounding the fall out.

Reflect on the lessons. Use what happened as an opportunity to learn whatever lesson you can get from it. Learn from the experience and use the knowledge wisely to nurture your other friendships. While the loss of a valued friendship is one of the saddest events in anyone’s life, take heart in knowing that you still have an opportunity to build and strengthen other friendships you have.

Connect with others. A falling out with a friend can be devastating. The experience may even trigger a depression if not managed properly. You have to decide to move on with your life even if it is the last thing on your mind. Take the time to socialize and meet new people. Finding new friends will not replace the one you lost, but it could give you the chance to gain more than you can nurture over time.


Daily Routines for Healthy Skin

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Keeping your skin healthy does not have to be costly. While there are a lot of top quality products out there that could keep your skin in good condition, you do not have to spend more on them just to take better care of your skin. Here are some of the things you can do at home to protect your skin.

Spend less time in the shower. If you are among those people who enjoy long, hot showers, you may want to start taking shorter and colder ones from now on. Hot showers, especially if taken longer, may leave your skin dry and strip you of natural oils that provide natural nourishment and protection for your skin.

Choose skin care products for your skin type. Pick face care and cosmetic items that suit your skin type best. Stick to mild products that are gentler on your skin. Read labels ad check what chemicals are used that may be potentially harmful to your skin and the environment.

Keep your face clean using a natural facial wash. Prepare your own facial wash using home ingredients such as milk, aloe vera, or honey. Sticking to a daily facial wash routine can keep impurities away and prevent the onset of blemishes.

Make your own beauty products. You can make your own products that will help keep your skin healthy and glowing. Start with ingredients that you can find in your kitchen or garden. Aloe vera, honey, and oatmeal are just some of the household items you can use to clean and rejuvenate your skin.

Remove dead skin cells. Exfoliate to remove dead skin cells. Use a gentle scrub and prepare your own natural exfoliating scrub using a mixture of coconut oil and sugar among others.

Enjoy your oranges. Eating oranges or drinking plenty of freshly squeezed orange juice can give you the Vitamin C, which is needed in producing collagen. Collagen helps in maintaining smooth, healthy skin. You can also add other Vitamin C-rich foods in your diet such as kiwis and guavas.

Drink plenty of water. Stay hydrated by drinking the recommended daily amount of water. And combined with healthy habits like eating nutritious meals, getting quality sleep, and exercising regularly, you can keep your skin healthy and glowing every day.